inconvenient others

i just inconvenient someone this morning, zequan. he just touched down in the airport 2 days ago, and i text him. "will you and your car be free this weekend?" and so, just now he helped me move my keyboard and books and all the other rubbish *backspace* things i have...

our conversation:
zq: where are all your other friends? i can't be your only friend who has a car, rite?
me: i have no other friends..
*laughs*
zq: must be you treat them like how you treat me, so they don't reply your messages
me: i can't ask not-so-good-friends, rite?

the truth is, we all have a long list of people whom we meet in our lives, a long list of names in our phone book..
but out of all these people, who are those whom you do not need to think twice before you inconvenient them..
i guess these are people you're most comfortable with, your true friends..

some of the people whom i inconvenient often, are not even people whom i hang out often with. how ironic! maybe it's time to rearranged my priorities to give my time to them who matters most.

the issue lies in this fast paced life, where you constantly change environment. you change job, you change ministry, you meet new people, and you need to join in their outings to blend in. it's difficult to choose between hanging out with your new colleagues or with your old friends whom you've not met for months. Yes, you meet your new colleagues every day. But to fit into the culture and feel comfortable in a place you need to go to every day, it just seems like you have to forgo the meetup with your old friends. you think you can catch up with your old friends as soon as you are comfortable at your workplace, BUT just to realise, you are changing job again and fitting into the new environment again and the cycle repeats itself. but ultimately, when you are in need, you pick up your phone and you call those whom you've not met for long, those old friends. and they will be the ones who'll lend you a shoulder to cry on, always there, just a phone call away.

what happened? did your priorities just went all wrong? i mean.. did MY priorities just went all wrong?